Youth Sports – Six Tips on How to Be a Coach Kids Love to Play For

In my lifetime, I have spent over 40 years around sports including youth sports. My dad was president of our local Little League for two years and now I coach AYSO soccer and Little League Baseball. In all that time, I have had many opportunities to watch many dads coaching kids on the field. Mostly, they act like frustrated would be but never were has bins playing GI Joe with live action figures, namely their sons. These are the coaches who no one wants to play for. In that time, I have also observed a small few men for whom the kids wanted to play. This article outlines five tips for how to be a coach kids want to play for.

Care More about the Kids than the Game

Many boys and girls love to play sports. They are natural athletes who want to compete on the ball field. However, before they will give you their best effort, they want to know if you care more about them than the game. Many youth coaches treat every game like the World Series and every season as if it was the only thing that mattered on the earth. In one league I recently observed, the coach was more concerned about beating another coach than how the child might be coping with their dad in the hospital. Youth sports are about the kids not the final score on the scoreboard.

Greet Every Team Member When They Arrive and Say Good Bye Before They Leave

Apart of showing how much you care is greeting each player when they arrive and before they depart the field. Find some way to give them either a high five or talk them up verbally at both ends of a game or practice. Some coaches get wrapped up in the stars of the team, and neglect those who do not play well. Reaching out to every kid will draw them into the team and drive them to want to put out their best effort.

Remember That the Ultimate Goal is for the Kids to Have and Enjoy the Experience

Youth Sports can teach children so many life lessons. Yet, many parent coaches think the main goal is to win the league championship. This is not the main purpose of youth sports. The main purpose is to create a long-term appetite for the game. Kids will only comeback if they are had fun and enjoyed the experience. When they are treated like pawns in some super dad’s fantasy to win at all costs, they will feel used and abused and eventually say, Thanks, but no thanks.”

Break Practice into Fast Action Activities That Teach Fundamentals and Skills

All the above being said, a good coach teaches the kids how to play the game. Making practices fun and exciting does not mean ignoring the fundamentals. Kids want to succeed. They want to have a chance to contribute and win. Being a coach kids want to play for means learning how to teach kids how to play the game. Unfortunately, many kids get bored at our same place, same thing practices. This is the video age. In order to capture the kids attention break practice into centers with three or four kids at each center; then make batting practice a time to practice game situations in the field.

Be a Cheerleader Not a Bull Whip

Kids have enough negative feedback in life. If you want them to respect you as a coach, be a cheerleader. Believe in your heart that even the least capable player and learn to play well and contribute to the team. Take seriously the idea of giving five positive comments to every negative criticism.

Use Positive, Constructive Discipline

Many Little League and AYSO coaches are stuck in the days of Woody Hayes and Bobby Knight. They think that the best way to get kids to play well is to make them. Their form of discipline is to berate the kids with vicious verbal abuse and hit harder line drives at them. They rationalize such language and behavior is okay because it is their kid and it makes them tougher.

On the flip side, the answer is neither to ignore bad or disrespectful behavior nor to allow kids to run wild. A good coach is not soft. He or she is firm but not overbearing. And, the kids want boundaries. They will push the limits and when the limits are enforced firmly without harassment. Use positive and constructive discipline and the kids will endear themselves to you.

Youth sports are meant to be fun. Kids want to learn how to play in a safe environment. They want to know that they are more important than the game and want to be taught how to thrive to the best of their abilities. Unfortunately, coaches try to pound their message into the kids’ heads with a sledge hammer, causing kids to lose interest in the game. This article has discussed five tips to being a coach kids want to play for.